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Search "toxic parents", and you'll find more than 38, 000 posts, largely urging young adults to cut ties with their families. The idea is to safeguard one's mental health from abusive parents. However, as a psychoanalyst (精神分析学家), I've seen that trend in recent years becomes a way to manage conflicts in the family, and I have seen the severe impacts estrangement (疏远) has on both sides of the divide. This is a self-help trend that creates much harm.

"Canceling" your parent can be seen as an extension of a cultural trend aimed at correcting imbalances in power and systemic inequality. Today's social justice values respond to this reality, calling on us to criticize oppressive and harmful figures and to gain power for those who have been powerless. But when adult children use the most effective tool they have — themselves — to gain a sense of security and ban their parents from their lives, the roles are simply switched, and the pain only deepens.

Often, what I see in my practice are cases of family conflict mismanaged, power dynamics turned upside down rather than negotiated. I see the terrible effect of that trend: situations with no winners, only isolated humans who long to be known and feel safe in the presence of the other. 

The catch is that after estrangement, adult children are not suddenly less dependent. In fact, they feel abandoned and betrayed, because in the unconscious, it doesn't matter who is doing the leaving; the feeling that remains is "being left". They carry the ghosts of their childhood, tackling the emotional reality that those who raised us can never truly be left behind, no matter how hard we try.

What I have found is that most of these families need repair, not permanent break-up. How can one learn how to negotiate needs, to create boundaries and to trust? How can we love others, and ourselves, if not through accepting the limitations that come with being human? Good relationships are the result not of a perfect level of harmony but rather of successful adjustments. 

To pursue dialogue instead of estrangement will be hard and painful work. It can't be a single project of "self-help", because at the end of the day, real intimacy (亲密关系) is achieved by working through the injuries of the past together. In most cases of family conflict, repair is possible and preferable to estrangement — and it's worth the work.

I'm a talker. I'm into debating, gossiping and teasing. I solve problems by talking them through. This works perfectly well when I have people to talk to. Under lockdown, however, I've only had my partner, Peter. We not only lived, worked and traveled together, but mostly socialized together, too. Under the first UK lockdown, our constant closeness began to feel uncomfortable.

For the first time in our 10 years together, we needed to be alone. I tried to manufacture this by going on walks on my own, but a short walk in the local park wasn't doing the job. I considered my options and hit upon an idea: the semi-solo hike. Could we do a circular hike but walk in different directions? This would give us the space and peace of a solo hike. It felt like a promising compromise, so I told him about it. He thought it was thoroughly silly but agreed to give it a try.

We started with a four-mile loop (环形) from Reeth. At the start, we parted ways. At first, I was aware of how close we were, which lessened the appeal. Walking alone offers freedom and alone time, but here I was with my boyfriend nearby. As I gained ground, however, I found myself very much alone. I set my own pace, and I decided to take my time. 

I sat on a rock and breathed out. That moment — with the weak sun through the clouds and the breeze blowing across makeshift pools — felt extraordinary to me. I was born and raised in London and had never imagined leaving until I met an outdoorsman. Now, my former life as a city girl felt crazy. Realizing what I had gained, I felt the tension leave me. There, in the chilly air, I no longer needed to talk. The semi-solo hike gave us a shared experience with added room to breathe. I didn't see Peter on route but reunited back where we started, both of us sheepish (难为情的) but pleased. The semi-solo hike is admittedly silly in theory, but for me it has been a lifeline. It has given me the gift of time alone and, in a year of constant closeness, the joy of reuniting.

Dear Tommy, 

I am Ole Orvér, Finnair's chief commercial officer. It's my pleasure to warmly welcome you back to the skies with Finnair. I'd like to reflect on some of the developments that we hope you find exciting and helpful:

●This summer season you can fly with Finnair to over 70 European and five US destinations. In Asia, we serve eight cities, including Guangzhou and newly added Mumbai starting 6 August. We operate over 300 daily flights and I'm excited about the addition of Seattle and Dallas to our US network.

●Travel is recovering everywhere, and airports around the world are working hard to manage increased traffic volumes. It is a good idea to reserve some extra time at the airport before your flight. We are doing our very best together with our partners both at Helsinki and in our outstations to offer you a smooth travel experience during this popular travel season. 

●You are again able to offset flight carbon emissions (碳补偿), this time with a service that combines sustainable aviation (航空) fuel and certified climate projects. We at Finnair have ambitious emissions targets and our customers wish for a simple and transparent way to contribute. 

●Finnair Plus turned 30 in May. We are committed to developing the programme further to serve you in the best possible way. To make your flight bookings smoother, we recently upgraded the experience of booking award flights in the Finnair app. 

Finally, I'd like to thank you for your patience when we haven't got things quite right. Wherever you're travelling in the next few months, I hope it's memorable. Thank you for flying Finnair.

Kind Regards, 

Ole Orvér

I brought home a homemade invitation to a party and showed it to my mother. "I'm not going, " I said. "She's a new girl named Ruth, and Berniece and Pat aren't going. She asked the whole class, all 36 of us. " As Momma studied the handmade invitation, she looked strangely sad. Then she announced, "Well, you are going! I'll pick up a present tomorrow. " I couldn't believe it. Momma had never made me go to a party! 

When Saturday arrived, Momma rushed me out of bed and made me wrap the pretty pink mirror-brush-and-comb set she'd bought. She drove me over in her yellow and white car and then left. Ruth answered the door and guided me to follow her up the steepest, oldest staircase I'd ever seen. 

Stepping through the door brought me great relief. The hardwood floors was shining in the sun-filled sitting room. Snow-white doilies（装饰小垫）covered the backs and arms of well-worn furniture. The biggest cake I ever saw sat on one table. It was decorated with nine pink candles, a messily printed Happy Birthday Ruth. Thirty-six cups filled with homemade fudge（软糖）were near the cake—each one with a name on it. "This will be wonderful if everyone gets here. " I thought. 

"Where's your mom?" I asked Ruth. Looking down at the floor, she said, "Well she's sick. " "Oh. Where's your dad?" "He's gone. " Then there was a silence. Some 15 minutes passed… then 10 more. It occurred to me that no one else was coming. How could I get out of here? As I sank into self-pity, I heard muffled（压抑的）sobs. Looking up, I saw tears in Ruth's eyes. All at once my heart was filled with sympathy for Ruth. There we were two small girls and a cake, 36 candy-filled cups, three dozen party gifts, games to play and prizes to win. 

注意：1. 续写词数应为150个左右；2. 请按如下格式在答题卡的相应位置作答。

Then I announced to Ruth, "Let's start our birthday party!".

Showing Momma my prizes, I shared my experience at Ruth's house with her. 

注意：1. 词数80个左右；2. 请按如下格式作答。

Dear Ryan, 

Yours sincerely, 

Li Hua

Minor Cold is the 23rd solar term（节气）of the 24 traditional Chinese solar terms. For most areas of China, it marks the start of the （cold）days of the year. This year's Minor Cold starts on Jan 6. Many Chinese sayings use the weather and climate situation during Minor Cold （predict）the weather in the following spring. 

During Minor Cold, people always start stocking New Year goods,  include Spring Festival couplets, New Year pictures, paper-cuts for window (decorate), fire crackers, incense and lanterns. 

Mutton hot pot, chestnuts and baked sweet potato are three (recommend) foods for Minor Cold. According to traditional Chinese medicine (theory), people need to eat food, that contains more yang energy to prevent cold from harming their organs. The yang energy in the three types of food （strengthen）through their method of cooking：boiling, stir frying and baking. 

Another important traditional food for Minor Cold is Laba porridge. It is made from more  20 kinds of nuts, cereals and dried fruits. Local people in Beijing often cook Laba porridge on the night of the seventh day of the （twelve）lunar month. After one night's slow simmering, all the ingredients（原料）melt into the porridge on the morning of the eighth day, （become）a warm delicacy to enjoy on cold days. 

I was annoyed that my mom had even scheduled the appointment with a doctor for me. As doctors so often do, when he arrived he went straight into the basic small talk about my 1  history. 

But then he 2  a question that took me off guard. "So Robin, what are you going to do after high school?" He wrote something at his notes, with not even a glance in my 3 . "I don't know, " I mumbled（嘟哝）. I was seventeen. I had no 4  what I was going to do after high school. My high school guidance counselor told me that I wasn't "college material" and I believed her. Education wasn't exactly 5  in my family. 

"You don't know? Well, why don't you go to college to become a 6  like me?" He smiled as he glanced at his watch. I thought he was 7  for even suggesting it. No one in my family had even graduated from college, let alone become a doctor. "I'm not smart enough to be a doctor. "

He looked me straight in the eyes when he 8  said, "Let me tell you something；you don't have to be smart to be a doctor. You just have to be persistent（坚持不懈的）. " Then the doctor hurriedly gathered his things and 9  to his next appointment. 

I 10  to think about it when I was at school. What would I do after high-school? Even though I wasn't college material, that doctor made a(n) 11  on me. I applied to a college and soon found myself walking in the 12  as a new student. I often questioned what I was doing there. Maybe I wasn't smart enough for college, but I could be persistent. 

I was 13  to find that with each individual achievement came newfound 14  in myself. I graduated with a master's degree in September 2014, two decades after that 15  with my doctor. 

Whatever your reason for feeling blue, know that occasional feelings of sadness are completely normal and to be expected in life. . And while such feelings aren't fun and can be challenging to overcome, it's absolutely possible to beat your blue mood with a little effort. 

● Spend time with loved ones 

Call or visit a friend or family member that you know you can count on. Since moods are contagious（传染的）, try to choose someone with a positive perspective on life. . Spend your time with them, recalling good times. Or do something that will make you laugh, such as watching your favorite stand-up comedian or go shopping. Allow yourself to feed off of their positive energy to boost your mood. 

● 

Take a trip if you're able to, even somewhere close by. If that's not in the cards, try something simple like changing your hairstyle, eating dinner at a new restaurant, taking a different route to work, switching up your gym routine, or visiting a local museum. It doesn't have to be anything significant. Even a small shift in your daily activities can improve your outlook. 

● Do a good deed

It may sound counterintuitive（反常的）, but perhaps one of the easiest ways to beat the blues is to do something for someone else. . Help a friend or family member or volunteer at your local animal or homeless shelter. You can also perform a random act of kindness. It feels good to make others feel good. 

●Change your environment

Your surroundings play a significant role in how you feel. If possible, a change of scenery can help you feel better. Rearrange your furniture, add plants or other pleasing decor to your home. You might also consider who you spend your time with since moods and attitudes are contagious. Negative people can bring you down, and positive people can uplift you. 

A. Change your routine. 

B. Do something creative. 

C. And it doesn't cost a cent to just be nice. 

D. There's nothing wrong with you for feeling down. 

E. Otherwise, you risk feeling worse than you already do. 

F. You may try taking a walk or listening to a calming song. 

G. Surround yourself with positive people and things to feel your best. 

Why does the giant squid（乌贼）have eyes as large as a football? Why do more than 350 species of fish produce their own electricity? Why do dogs become more optimistic after two weeks of plentiful sniffing（嗅）? 

The mysteries and miracles of animal senses are revealed in this year's winner of Royal Society Trivedi science book prize. An Immense World by Ed Yong is an exploration of the unique sensory world of other creatures, from tree hoppers to singing frogs, who sense the world in vastly different ways to humans. 

Yong has interviewed many kinds of scientists during his writing but sensory biologists are his favourite. "There's a surprising number of sensory biologists who are themselves neuro-atypical—they have something like face blindness or colour blindness, " he says. "Their different than"normal way of experiencing the world themselves might help them better empathize（共情）with other creatures who have those experiences. The core of this book is curiosity and empathy, understanding and valuing animals for their own benefit, and trying to put ourselves in the shoes of creatures who are very different to us. "

Yong's book carries an important message about how our lack of understanding of the sensory worlds of other animals is hugely destructive. Studies have shown that LED lights are particularly damaging to bats and insects. Flowers illuminated（照亮）by bright lights receive 62%fewer visits from insects. Meanwhile, low-frequency noise in oceans has risen 32-fold since the Second World War because of global shipping-damaging whales' ability to communicate. 

Unfortunately, reducing noise and light pollution is nowhere near the political agenda. "It's understandable why it's not on the political agenda because it's not a visceral（强烈的）problem like a plastic-ridden beach or chemicals billowing from a smokestack, "says Yong. "Light and sound don't produce the same kind of horror. Light especially feels like an entirely good thing-we want more light in our lives；light is knowledge, safety, beauty and goodness. So just raising awareness that these are problems that could be tackled is an important first step and one I hope An Immense World moves people further towards taking. "

African grey parrots（鹦鹉）help their peers complete tasks despite no immediate benefit to themselves, researchers have found in the first study to show that birds display such apparently "selfless" behaviour.

Writing in the journal Current Biology, Brucks and colleagues report how they tested African grey parrots in a task that involved the birds passing a token, in the form of a metal ring, through a hole in their section to a neighbouring bird of the same species. This token could then be passed by the second bird to a human, via another hole, who would exchange it for a piece of nut. 

The team found African grey parrots helped their neighbours by passing tokens to their neighbour when a human held out their hand, allowing the second bird to drop it through-the hole and receive a tasty treat. 

The same behaviour was seen when the roles of the birds were reversed（颠倒）. The more tokens a bird had previously given, the more they received in return. 

However, the team stress previously the birds did not know that their favour would be rewarded, suggesting it is something of a "selfless" act. 

The team say it may be due to African grey parrots gathering in huge flocks at night but splitting into smaller groups during the day to forage（觅食）. Brucks said such behaviour is thought to require strong social cognitive（认知）abilities, adding that being helpful might help the birds gain a good reputation with their peers, making it more likely they would team up for foraging and other tasks. 

Dr Manon Schweinfurth, an expert in animal behaviour, said evidence of reciprocal（互惠的）behaviour in African grey parrots is quite interesting. "It has been thought that it is so cognitively demanding that only humans can show it. But we now get more and more evidence from other animals that they are able to show reciprocity, " she said.